Ever hear that saying? "Friendships are here for a reason, a season, or a lifetime" Now I believe friendships can be all 3. Coming and going, liquid. Some are definitely only for a reason or a season. But Lifers, they are all 3. Besides my husband and family I only have 2 people that have been constant in my life for a long time (5 years!)
M was my Made of Honor. We met in college, bonded over a dead baby pig. I'm actually shocked that M and I are friends, she pretty much rocked that class, and I pretty much rocked in the corner gagging. We've had our friendship ups and downs but over all I know that we will be friends for the long haul. We're very different, but I think thats what has kept us close. Even though she lives a million miles away doing TFA (Teach For America) We still talk on the regular.
A is another "lifer" of mine. We actually met on a "Set up" date though a mutual friend. He's one of the most amazing men I know and has always been a constant and great person to bounce ideas off of. Again even though he lives far away, we still talk on facebook and joke. Its funny, A didn't even know it was a set up until way after the fact and we were already best friends.
Then the friendships that last a season, they usually aren't worth mentioning. They come into your life, but then stay awhile and leave. These include random people you hang out with in college when your bored.
But the friendships that come in for a Reason, those are worth mentioning. These are the friends that come into your life either for a lifetime or a season, but they touch you (not in a dirty way.) They bring something to your life that was missing. These hurt the most when they only last a season. A "season" just ended with a friend that was most definitely for a reason.
Sorry if this post is depressing. I'm just mourning the loss of a friendship that grew apart.
I hate that friendships don't last forever but it's so true that most don't. Thanks for this great reminder as to what the reason for friendships truly are.
ReplyDeleteI think we've all been in a position of mourning the end of a friendship, but this is a beautiful post.
ReplyDeleteBeautiful post! Perhaps this friendship will come back together, but whether it does or not, you'll always have the reason. Hold dearly to that.
ReplyDeleteI have only had one friendship that actually ended abruptly for a specific reason. Lots have fizzled over time because of distance or whatever, but having someone choose to no longer be your friend is the hardest. I hope that isn't what happened in your case!
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